Yesterday, I was with Sarah over at Life and Grace, as part of her Showing More Love series. Following Sarah and her lovely family’s journey through baby loss, pregnancy, and life in general has been very encouraging to me. I love seeing the ways that mothers connect in their grief– even when their experiences are vastly different. Her series runs through the month of February and includes great bloggers with helpful tips on showing love in diverse situations.
She asked me to share some ideas on how you can give support and love to newly diagnosed families and, of course, I included plenty of gifs because moving pictures make everything better. Here are my top five ways to get that love train rolling!
When you find out you’re going to have a baby, it feels like happy and ecstatic and anxious all at once. Pregnant gals are excited gals. But when you find out your baby has a disability, it feels like sad and mad and why-hast-Thou-forsaken-me—on top of the other lovely things above. My point is— it’s a lot of feelings. And when I learned at our 20-week ultrasound that my son would be born with spina bifida (a permanently disabling birth defect of the spine) I spent a lot of time just hanging out with my emotions. I was trying to hold them steady. I was trying to keep them under control. And when I wasn’t battling my fears and my utter heartbreak, I was scrambling to snatch a sense of peace that felt just out of reach.
Grief is never pretty and it passes slowly. Yet even while I waged war in my heart and melted under the heat of my own disappointments, there’s one emotion that did not desert me.
It wasn’t a heavens-parting love or a love made manifest in secret signs from the Divine. It was so much simpler and so much stronger than that.
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